Hey, I totally empathize my dear- I have 5 under 6yrs of age and everything you said iis down pat- but it does get better when they get older- even in just a few months - they'll entertain each other more and free you up from entertaining or taking an active part...honestly today I love stopping myself and joining them while they play pretend- they look at me like what are u doing here??? but i just want to hear them because they are totally playing off what they see hear, etc, and its really funny and entertaining to me sometimes...but just pray right now that when you give birth that you'll keep it together- meaning, just breathe....remember that G-d gives us what we can handle even if we think were going nuts in the process- just remind yourself that this is your mission in ife to stay sane and realize how lucky you are that everyone is healthy and needs you for normal day to day stuff and not something worse...(this thought helps because we take it SO for granted- our health, their health...) Baruch hashem!!! try to sleep for 45 minutes in the morning when they are gone- you'll be more refreshed and probably more alert to come up with creative ways of burning time...we all have those 2 hours or so in the day that we want to go faster...and then one day we'll beg for more.. stay strong jewish mom!!
Are you doing anything fullfilling for yourself in the mornings or other times nourishing your own alone time needs? I find that when I nourish my own needs, I am then able to give some devoted time enjoying playing with my kids and really enjoying their antics. That being said there is also time that can be allotted to self directed play for your children without you sitting with them.
I too get those feelings. But I take the time to stop and think that in a blink of an eye they will be grown and I will miss hearing the non stop chatter and the Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom.
Dear Jewish Mama!All of these points, about finding meaningful activity, nurturing yourself, rearranging your home, scheduling activities, joining a mother's group are all things to do when you are not in the middle of it... Now for something when you are in the middle of it:Be prepared. With a mantra, or a prayer. Meaning, prepare yourself with a different tape in your head to respond with at those moments.Instead of "this is crazy" "I hate this" "i can't do this" "this is not normal" (we have all said those things to ourselves...but it is not healthy!!) etc., you need a positive replacement.Do some research, reading or thinking, and find a brief phrase or prayer you can remember my heart that you can tell yourself when you start to feel like this. It needs to be calming for you, or inspiring to you, or pleading to H' - or all of the above. Or, it can be something that you want to believe even if you don't feel it at the moment.Just some brainstormed examples: "I can do this""this is the most positive thing I can be doing right now""Hashem's yeshuah can come in an instant""I am the adult here""What a privilege to be here""I am building worlds""I am holding the pitcher" (see explanation below)"Hashem hold my hand""Hashem give me the strength""Help is coming""I am changing""I am holding onto the rope" (and that rope is connected to all the other jewish moms holding on at their points of contact as H' lifts us out of this Galus!)"I am not the only one""I am more normal than I think!""Remember Rochel Imeinu" - think of how she is crying for you to have chizuk"I am shaping lives""B'cha H' hasisi= in you H I have taken refuge' (Tehillim 31;2)"u'lmaan shimcha tanchaini usnahaleini' = and for the sake of your name guide me and lead me" -(Tehillim 31; 4)"B'tzur Yeromemeini"= upon a rock He will lift me (Tehillim 27;5)(just take a few minutes to look at a translated Tehillim and find your own- there are so many posukim filled with chizuk and with crying out)Practice saying it over and over. Ask H' to help you be calm. Breathe in and exhale and Then say your phrase to yourself in the middle of the mishkababble of activity that is going on and say it over and over and watch yourself melt from your forehead to your shoulders to your tips of your toes! Watch yourself get re-settled in to the place you are now, and be where you need to be. Then get above the situation. See that Hashem lifted you up onto that rock.
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